Guests Part 2

Okay, I think on that last entry I got a little off topic..

So let's try this again. The initial point I was trying to make is that guests should behave as guests and it is the host's responsibility to make sure that happens. After you and your roommate have reached an agreement on the expectations of guests or frequency of visitors, it is then your job to abide by the agreement. You may feel extremely comfortable around your guest, like your boyfriend, but your roommate is not as familiar with that person and may expect certain privacy from them. For example, most women do not wear a bra while they sleep. Just because your roommate feels comfortable enough to do this in her space with another female around, does not mean that she will still feel comfortable if a male guest is over. For this reason, you should communicate with your roommate about any guests coming over, and expect the same communication in return.

Another issue that may arise concerning guests deals with food and drinks. If you are a polite host, you should offer your guests a drink or food when they come over. It is not acceptable to offer your guest a drink or food that belongs to your roommate. For example, Kate is not a very polite hostess. A few weeks ago, she invited a friend over to study. When they entered our apartment, Kate went to her room and never came back out for the rest of the night. I walked into our kitchen to find a stranger pouring one of my beverages into one of my glasses with the refrigerator door standing wide open. Of course, I introduced myself and asked who she was, and then as politely as possible told her what was Kate's property and what belonged to me. This awkward situation should have been avoided, if only Kate had taken the proper action by introducing me to this guest or by at least helping her in the kitchen. No harm was done by the guest, but Kate blatantly disrespected her guest as well as her roommate.